My sexuality is not a phase. I am who I am. – Cara Delevingne

Up close and personal, right on Monday already? Yeah. because why not. I spent this Saturday at Kokkola Pride and figured it would be nice to do something related to that. Sexuality is still a complicated theme for me personally as I never really figured out things about myself in that part. I’ll go into that in a bit. First, we need a real quick history lesson.

What is Pride Month and why do we need that?

Pride Month is celebrated in June in memory of the Stonewall Riots which occurred at the end of June in 1969. Brenda Howard The Stonewall Riots where the tipping point for the Gay Liberation Movement in the US. The month is meant to celebrate and to remember the impact of members in the LGBTQ+ community.

Our crew at Pride (minus my SO who took the picture)

Well, what’s your sexual identity then?

Thank you for asking! To be honest, I am not really sure. I did identify as bisexual at some point in my teens, but never really said or told anyone about it. (Hi Mom, Dad and the rest of my family who reads this!) Now that I am a bit older and “wiser” I am not really certain if that is true though.

This is also where it gets a bit wonky, at least in my head, as I am and always been in heterosexual relationships. I think it’s just because that is what I saw as normal and just how it was. I never really thought about things in that manner and just rolled with it. Does that mean that I identify as straight now? No, not really. I’m still on the fence between pansexual and bisexual as the two are kind of the same in the end, but I haven’t figured out which label I am more comfortable with. It all also goes very confusing when you stop seeing gender on a binary scale.


Bisexual flag

Bisexual flag


Pansexual flag


Either way, while I get my own identity together I do consider myself an ally. There is still so much discrimination and hate towards LGBTQ+ people around the world, but also here right at home. Did you, for example, know that trans people must be sterilized if they want to change their gender officially in Finland? If you want to know more about this you can find more information about it (in Finnish) at Kuuluu Kaikille.

So use Pride Month to support your friends, family, and fellow strangers even if their life might look a bit different than yours. Stand up against bigotry, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia and hate speech everywhere you can.

Thank you for reading and I will see you tomorrow.