Fashion is about dressing according to what’s fashionable. Style is more about being yourself. – Oscar de la Renta
Today I will be covering more on something called “lifestyle lolita”. It’s quite simple really, it just means that your whole life fits the lolita aesthetic. You wear the fashion every day in one form or the other, you have hobbies like embroidery or going to museums, you drink lots of tea and your house or apartment is decorated accordingly. This is something that is very personal and at what point you do consider yourself a lifestyler.
Besides wearing the fashion on a daily basis another key point is that you essentially live your life like a Victorian maiden (with variables whether you are a classic, gothic or sweet lolita). Obviously, you can enjoy classical music, museums, and crafts without being a lifestyler but it is part of the general definition. I actually really like this WikiHow article about becoming a lifestyle lolita. It covers a lot of the points I have touched on earlier, like how to build your wardrobe and how to shop on a budget, but includes lots of good pointers I probably missed. I also found this list on the EGL Livejournal that gives lots of ideas of things you can do.
So what exactly can you incorporate in your life that would make you a lifestyler? Some more obvious options would be to learn how to play instruments, like the violin or piano, hosting tea parties, refining your manners and etiquette knowledge as well as baking. Think of pretty much anything a Lady in Victorian times would be having as a hobby and you have it. It could also include visiting graveyards, researching your local history and culture or letting your inner child out to play once in a while.
Personally, I definitely don’t consider myself a lifestyler. I do however enjoy museums, tea, cute things and classical music. There is something very special about going out to town in lolita to buy tea for example, and I definitely have “Princess Days”. I usually dress up, do my makeup and my hair (or put on a wig) before enjoying a day out, a cup of tea or some D&D feeling all poofy. It is also not something I would want to do all the time as it takes quite a bit of effort. I would want to learn embroidery and piano though, among other cutesy hobbies. I essentially have lifestyle days, but am in no way inclined to being a lolita 24/7.
In the end, what matters is whether you consider yourself a lifestyle lolita or not. It’s not something that you should feel pressured more into, as lolita is just a fashion style in the end. If it happens to fit you and feel like you then go on ahead! This is in no way a requirement to call yourself a lolita, but it’s fun to see where your life and hobby are the same.