Now this became serious quickly, but I think this is a super important topic to talk about, especially considering the season. The idea was sparked by a friend’s post on Facebook, where she was talking about the reason why she might or might not be buying someone a present. To summarize the post they said that A) they only bought a present if they felt it was PERFECT for someone and B) if she bought someone a present they shouldn’t feel pressure to give a gift back.
I personally love this idea. I always feel a bit of pressure when thinking about who all I should be buying gifts for and what I should get them. I love buying gifts for people, but I also want to get people something that matters and not something random for the sake of giving something. I don’t think this is uncommon either considering today’s shopping culture.
I have started to become more and more aware of my shopping habits, mainly because I am very much a materialistic person. I love buying little cool or cute things whether I actually need them or not. That is not really a good habit for many reasons and I am trying to ease myself out of it. Mainly I have stopped buying knick-knacks and stuff that I don’t need and selling, donating or recycling things I don’t use anymore.
So how has this influenced my gift buying? Mainly that I don’t feel the pressure about getting people Christmas gifts this year. I know that if I find something that is perfect for someone, preferably secondhand as long as it’s safe, I can get it for them. If I don’t find anything then that’s how it is.
So am I telling everyone to just stop buying gifts? No, not really. If you want to buy gifts for everyone you know that is your decision. What I am asking for however is that you think about what you buy and whether the person actually needs the item. Try also to take in consideration where you buy the items from if you have the chance. Buying something of better quality or that is made with sustainability in mind is always a big plus.
This also gives you the opportunity to put a lot of thought into the gifts you buy or make. It feels a lot more special to get a gift if you know that the person giving it doesn’t do so easily as well! I have also started to ask people what they want in order to avoid getting them things they won’t have any use of. My sister as an example knows (mostly) what she is getting for Christmas already!
For some people, this might be obvious, but I don’t really feel like everybody thinks about their buying habits, especially when it comes to gifts. It’s so ingrained that you should buy gifts to people if you’re even vaguely close to them. It creates unnecessary strains on our little planet as well as on your wallet, especially if you don’t have much to spare.
It does seem like buying something just for the sake of buying something is slowly dying away, but I at least still feel the pressure from that way of thinking. Now don’t get me wrong, I love buying gifts to people, but I don’t like feeling pressured to do so. Gifts shouldn’t feel like an obligation, but like something you want to give people.
So in conclusion: Don’t be sad if someone didn’t get you something this year and don’t feel like you are obliged to get them a gift because they gave you one. Be happy about the gifts that you do give and do receive.
Sorry for being a bit spotty with my posts this month! December has been quite busy and a bit iffy healthwise, but I’ll try to keep up with my posts as much as I can.