Your body is the church where Nature asks to be reverenced. – Marquis de Sade
As you can read from the title: Yeah, I really have left the church. I am no longer part of the Evangelic-Lutheran congregation. I have been considering this for quite some time, so I wanted to share a bit about my thoughts around the matter and why I came to this conclusion.
First of all: I don’t consider myself a Christian and never really have. I have only belonged to the church out of tradition and not much else personally. I have found my faith elsewhere and consider myself an eclectic Wiccan. I mix paganism, Wicca and kitchen witchery mainly in my practice, so I haven’t really had a need for church visits. I also don’t share the worldview of Christianity as I don’t really believe that there is only a single God and so forth.
I obviously also can’t ignore the fact that there are some decisions the church has made that I simply can’t agree with, e.g. equal rights to marriage. That’s not a major reason for me leaving though, but I can’t stay that they didn’t influence me either. In the end, the church has it’s right to follow their own moral code, but then they should give up certain rights in the matters as well if they can’t agree with what Finnish law is. I also can’t agree with how some people want to push Christian morals on a governmental level in a country where the church and state are separate.
Why did it take so long for me to actually go through with this then? Well, I figured that one day when I get married I would want to have the ceremony in a church because it’s beautiful. Now that I am engaged and planning a wedding we realized that neither of us really needs that and that we could do a hand-fasting instead. We figured that we wanted the wedding ceremony to look more like us and how we want it to be. We are already quite sure that it will all be just as beautiful and lovely as if we had decided to have it in a church.
But what about your children?! They won’t get baptized! Well, no. Children, in general, is a bit of a complicated matter in our household that we don’t have a clear plan on yet. I still don’t think that it will be an issue since the kids have a chance to join whichever faith they believe in. If we have children in the future and if they want to join a Christian church, then they will be free to do so. Faith is a very personal matter and should be up to each person to decide on.
That is pretty much the gist of it! Obviously, this is a pretty short insight into a very complicated matter. I do think that I covered the biggest parts though. If you have any questions feel free to comment!